Busy Days

When I was a younger, I thought the SAHM gig was the easiest “job” on the planet. I mean you didn’t even have to work.

Luckily, now that I’m wiser, I went into this job knowing it was going to entail a lot of work. I still don’t know if I realized how busy I was going to be, truly.

I gave myself a break for the first month so I could try and get into a groove. Not a whole lot of expectations as to what I would accomplish. Laundry, dinner and keep my kids  alive. Not too hard.

Just those three things keep me pretty darn busy. Weston has had more bumps and bruises then he ever did with the nanny.  I asked The Hubs if I was doing a bad job or if we were just doing a lot more then they were able to do (i.e. park, splash pad, etc.)  The Hubs intelligently stated the latter.

These ideas I have of learning photoshop and improving my photography, designing printables and learning to sew. I have N O idea when I will fit these things into my schedule.

I have barely taken my good camera out of it’s bag…

Sewing machine still has dust on it.

I did design an invitation to a baby shower!  I was very proud.  It just took about 3 hours.  A graphic designer could have done it in 30 minutes.  I’m learning. BUT I go so irritated trying to get the sizing correct to order it via Staples, that I just ordered a customizable one from Tiny Prints.  It’s going to be great though.  Next time.  I’m confident that I could have also replicated the design from Tiny Prints.  So there’s that.

Getting dinner together with two little nuggets at your feet wanting to be picked up or saying “bite bite” repeatedly to anything I’m making. They do not care if it’s raw or 100° and would scald their little mouths.  They don’t even know what it is I’m preparing.  This is also where I’ve started allowing a little bit of TV time. If I didn’t , I’m sure I would never get dinner done. I would say that I’ve successfully made dinner 4 out of 7 days – eating leftovers on the off days. One week I miraculously made dinner every night and we actually ended up wasting a lot of food.

Don’t be fooled. The boys are only eating what we eat about 50% of the time. It’s always offered to them, to at least try it, but half of the time it’s a big fat NO.



I think cleaning the house pretty much fills up the rest of my time. When am I supposed to get those other activities done? Hell, I haven’t even written a post in 3 weeks!

Now that I’ve been a lazy bum and slept in (30 extra minutes), I need to start getting my butt out of bed. BEFORE the Nugs.  Otherwise, this is how I get ready…I have to distract them by “unlocking” a cabinet. Works for approximately 16 minutes.
Get dressed, fix my hair and get make up on in 16 minutes.  Ready…..set…..GO!

Target trips, park days and splash pads take up the rest of our time. I mean, we do have fun. 

Family from Thailand was in the states and that was a real treat.  We even got to check out the Dallas Cowboys Summer Football camp.  The boys will be eligible to attend at school age.  


This week has been a challenge because Corbin woke up from his nap with a fever on Sunday afternoon. My kiddos rarely get sick (pro to staying home). He was acting pretty normal but his fever stuck around until Tuesday, so we went to the doctor. Turns out it is strep throat. I would never have guessed based on his symptoms (or lack thereof) but the doc showed me the test strip. Poor guy. So this week we’ve been stuck inside and watching too much tube.

I am starting to find a good routine for us and I’m loving all the time together.  I’m finally content with how much time I spend with them and no longer dealing with all this self inflicted guilt.

Now to find time to do more!

XOXO

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Our Week

Just a little highlight of our week in pics…. 





It’s been a good week and tomorrow is the freak’n W E E K E N D !!

Xoxo

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Headed for the Weekend

Hows it going, you’re wondering. This new SAHM role I started this week.

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It’s awesome. I kiss my nuggets all day long. They’re probably tired of it and I stopped to think if I’ll ever tired of it. The answer is,  no.

Corbin comes over to me and just sits in my lap. For no reason. Just to sit with me.  My heart fills.

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Weston is constantly trying to get my attention. If I’m distracted or playing with Cor, he will come right into my face and yell jibberish to make sure I am giving him my full attention.   My heart fills.

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These are tiny little things I didn’t get throughout the week.  I always ate up all the time spent with them on the weekends because it was precious.  Precious and short.  Friends would ask to scheduling things on the weekends, whether it be a movie or brunch and I would decline.  Work would ask me to “pop in” on the weekends and I would refuse.  It was impossible for me to give up my short 48 hours (Sat-Sun) with the Nuggets for anything.   My heart is bursting to have this amount of time with my boys.

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It was also an early bedtime tonight. Naps were waaaaay too short (good thing I didn’t have big plans this week) and that lead to fussy Nuggets. Weston would not touch his dinner and Corbin chunked his cup across the room, so hard is busted open and milk went everywhere. This is also where I mention that the only thing I accomplished during nap time was mopping the floors.  I finished this evening up in the pool.

So, as Wednesday comes to a close, my heart is super full.  It’s still weird for me.  The days are lost on me…I thought yesterday was Wednesday and the weekend has desire but much less than when I was part of the M-F/8-5 club.  It is a good reason to be lost in time though.

XOXO

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This Is It.

Tomorrow is my last day in the corporate world.  The job I currently have isn’t exactly corporate at all, so I guess I should say I’m leaving the “income earning” world.

There have been some interesting turn of events this week.  The company I work for actually lost the business at my account. Therefore, I would have actually lost my current job in about three weeks.  C r A z Y huh?  Thanks to the big Guy in the sky, I don’t have that level of stress to worry about what we would do.   Interesting how that worked out.

The company I work for would have found me another job, they offered several before I put my notice in, BUT it would have involved travel.

Since I am actually quitting my day job because I cannot find an acceptable balance between work-life and mom-life, that type of gig would never work for me.

So this is it.

I have plans to go to Office Max/Depot and purchase a giant dry erase board and line out my chore lists, dinner plans, swim lessons.  These plans include bringing my uber organized work-self and make myself a totally rock’n SAHM.  I have plans to learn how to sew.  Plans to craft.  Plans to DIY.  Let’s talk about these plans in about three months and see where I’m at with all of them.

I can’t believe it’s actually happening.

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The Countdown

The Countdown T-minus 21 days until I leave corporate American and join the 29% of mothers who don’t work outside the home. Notice I didn’t say, “Moms who don’t work.” Because I know that being a SAHM is going to be a LOT of work. blog table I was talking to my mom last night (who was a SAHM) and she asked if I was getting excited. Of course! I’ll get to spend my days with two of my most favorite people. She also mentioned how it’s “best for the boys if I stay home”. I wavered in my agreement and Momo stated, “Well you believe that, otherwise you wouldn’t be choosing to stay home.” I agreed.   Reluctantly. But I don’t agree.

Sorry Mom, still love you.

This is the same reason why my (predominately) male coworkers have all accepted my resignation with ease. Over the year that I’ve worked with this team, almost all of them have put their foot in their mouth regarding this exact subject.

During a conversation with one manager, when he asked why I don’t work any weekends, he actually said, “I didn’t allow my wife to work; her job was to raise our boys”. As I tried to keep my face passive, I refrained from commenting.

Another said, “I was always proud that my wife raised our kids and not someone in a daycare.” Again, no comment.

The best one was a male manager, whose wife was a teacher before kids, she claimed she could tell a difference in the students whose mom’s stayed home with them, from the children whose mom didn’t.  The students with SAHM were better students.  This time I couldn’t keep my mouth shut.  I straight up call him out, “So what are you saying?  My kids are going to be terrible in school because, hellooooo, I’m a working mom.”  He realized what he had said and attempted to back peddle but there was no where to go.  This same manager, said I was the best HR manager he’s worked with in his 30+ year career.

It’s not fair of anyone to say that it’s best for the children if one of the parents stays home. That’s not necessarily true for everyone. As my Google statistic above mentioned, only 29% of mom’s stay home. So we’re then suggesting that the other 71% of the children in the U.S. are not being raised right? That’s not fair.

Plenty of moms and dads work because they want to work. It’s their choice and it’s not always because they have to work. There are so many great daycare/schooling options and nannies have become a more affordable option for many families. Nanny-cams and background checks make for better hiring decisions. When both parents have a career there can be more expendable income which means great family vacations and memories and less stress and worry about how to pay the bills. What happened to the saying, “It takes a village to raise a child”.  Remember?

If it had been my choice when my maternity leave was over, I miiiiight have still chosen to go back to work. I was really ready for some adult interaction and feeling like I was contributing to something big. I had been on bed rest for two months and then home with the boys for three and half months. I was ready to get out of the house.

The biggest reason I’ve elected to stay home is because we haven’t been able to balance the demands of our careers well and me staying home has become an option. Most importantly, I WANT to stay home and strengthen my relationship with the Nuggets. I will definitely go back to work, sooner than later. When that is, I don’t know.

So although I am very excited for this new SAHM gig, I’m not in agreement to say it’s the only way to “raise your kids right”. If that was the case, I’ve been doing it wrong up to this point and that’s not true at all. Just look at these boys! blog cheerios Our Memorial Day weekend was W E T. Stormy. Flooding. Dreary. We had a bunch of family over on Sunday and thank God, it let up for a bit. Enough for us to sit on the porch, catch up and the boys got to run around outside.

Due to the rain we’ve been taking them on basic chores with us. They run as loudly as possible through the grocery store.  Our local Tom Thumb loves us.  I hope. blog shopping1 blog shopping Big helpers. XOXO

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It’s Official

I’ve gone and done it.

I quit my day job.

I’m making my mommy job my number one priority.

I’m nervous. Scared. Worried. Elated.

Last month, I attended a seminar. At this seminar there were all these astonishing women. They introduced one of the attorneys as recognized amongst the state of Texas as the next big thing. Then her counterpart stated, “you’d never believe she had quintuplets eight months ago.” My mouth, seriously, hung open.

When I picked myself up off the floor, another speaker talked about while working for Toms (ya know, the awesome shoe company that gives back?) as an executive and traveling to Nepal, while pumping breast milk in the backseat of a Jeep. Again, I am blown away.

Both of these women were a few years my senior but had children around The Nuggets’ age. I was just dazed that they can find any sort of balance. I don’t feel like I can give 100% at my job, when I’d rather be giving 100% to my kids. There has to be balance and I cannot find it. Or at least find enough balance to where I am satisfied with how I’m as a mom and how I am at work.

This is not to say parents (not just moms) who chose to work, aren’t doing a great job at both or either. This is how I feel. I might feel differently if I had job I absolutely loved, or if my job offered more flexibility and less demands where I could actually have some semblance of balance.

I don’t even know if I’ll be good at the SAHM role. I’m aware that it is not an easy job.  Not everyone is actually cut out for it.

Up until this point we’ve had a fantastic nanny. She has done a great job with the boys and unfortunately, she’s run into conflicts where her own family’s needs conflicts with the hours we need her to work.

God has a plan and this opportunity has put itself in front of us and we’re going to take it.  I’d also like to add that The Hubs has volunteered to be a SAHD but he makes a bit more bacon, so I win!

So in approximately one month, this lady right here will be spending the next several years, raising her boys.

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Don’t you know, I’ll add that shit to my resume

XOXO

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