I’m not perfect.
Whhhhhhat? You think.
No, in all seriousness. I feel like I owe a lot of people apologies.
The Lindsey that owes these apologies is the “pre-mommy Lindsey”. I knew, very shortly after having the boys, I would eat a LOT of crow. I have always been pretty opinionated. I felt that, it’s my opinion and I’m entitled to it, so whatevs. My opinions or comments were never made in malicious ways or were ever intended to hurt anyone. Isn’t there a country song with lyrics like, “the road to hell is paved in good intentions…”?
First, I’m sorry to any mom that uses, used or intends to use formula. I never actually commented on anyone’s choice not to nurse (without knowing why) but I made sure to announce that I would do everything in my power to breastfeed.
Guess what? I did. Annnnd the boys were still on formula. After having children, I was welcomed into the world of mom’s that couldn’t nurse. And then the group of momma’s that accept and support you, regardless of how you provide nutrition to your baby. Formula or BF and more importantly regardless of the reasons for that choice. I was so surprised that, even with all my conviction, I still couldn’t exclusively breastfeed.
Second, I’m sorry to co-sleeping parents. I never said anything out loud to anyone who sleeps/slept with their kiddos in their bed but boy did I think it. “How could they ever put their children in harms way like that?” “WHY?!?!” I read all the horror stories and even knew of someone (through someone) where the daddy rolled over on the infant and suffocated him. Aside from how unbelievably, horribly tragic it was, I thought to myself, why would they even risk it!?!
Guess who slept (albeit, very uneasily) with the boys? We did. I was very nervous but we still did it. I also learned many, many parents do as well.
I pretty much owe an apology to every woman out there that was a mom before me. I just didn’t know yet. I formed opinions and passed judgment (I know, I know) on something I really knew nothing about firsthand. I might have read or learned things but you don’t truly know until you are parent. So, I’m sorry all mommies out there (pre-2013). I now know you were doing everything you could, to do it all the best way you knew how, for your own children.
I hope if I put my apology out to the universe, I will be forgiven for the error of my ways and hopefully enlighten some “pre-mommy’s” to keep an open mind!!